Anyone who has experienced a death of a loved one may find the holidays difficult. The season can become filled with feelings of sadness, loss and emptiness. “Society encourages you to join in the holiday spirit, but all around you the sounds, sights and smells trigger memories of the one you love who has died,” said Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D, Director of the Center for Loss and Life Transition “During the holidays it is important to remember to be tolerant and compassionate with yourself.”
It’s a new year! For many people that means life starts over. It’s a time to try to live better, be more organized, and complete tasks that perhaps were overlooked during the previous year. As you are making your resolutions and lists of all the things you want to do to make your life better in 2018, have you considered discussing having the Talk of a Lifetime with your loved ones? What is the Talk of a Lifetime you might be asking.
Someone you love has died and you are now faced with the difficult, but important, need to mourn. According to Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D, Director of the Center for Loss and Life Transition “Mourning is the open expression of your thoughts and feelings regarding the death and the person who has died. It is an essential part of healing.” The grief journey is often frightening, painful, overwhelming, and sometimes lonely. With hope the following tips from Dr. Wolfelt will help you as you move toward….
With the baby boom population being 75 million strong, it’s no surprise that today’s funeral services have become “Life Celebrations” instead of a room full of friends and family wearing black attire and sad faces. This is certainly not to downplay the fact that when a loved one dies, we aren’t sad or that it is difficult to celebrate a traumatic and unexpected loss. It is simply to state that today the emphasis on funerals for many families, especially baby boomers, has been to plan the service around the....
Regardless of your age, there is a good chance that you have attended at least one or two funerals. For those people reading this article, there is a greater chance that you’ve possibly attended many more funerals than just two. Unfortunately, over the past year, I personally have attended more funerals than normal. With each funeral I attend, my belief that funerals are an important ritual to help the living acknowledge loss and begin the grief process grows even stronger. Funerals do matter.
Whether you’re a boomer or the child of a boomer, you may have started talking about the next 10, 20 or even 30 years and planning for the retirement years. If you have already had the retirement conversation and started planning, congratulations – you are doing yourself and your family a favor by considering and possibly making decisions about the many choices you have available to you.
Have you ever considered how much your family has experienced during your lifetime together? From the birth of your children to the first and last days of school to weddings and all the vacations, ballgames and performances in between, you probably have many stories to share with friends and families. Along the way, I’m pretty certain you have probably taken hundreds if not thousands of photos and videos of your family and friends to help document your journey.
If an accident happened to cause your death today, would your loved ones know how to arrange your funeral or life celebration? Who will notify your family and friends? Have you discussed the type of visitation, funeral or memorial service you’d like to have with anyone? Do you know what casket or urn you would like? Do others know your favorite song? Is there a favorite outfit you’d want to wear? Do you want a traditional burial or do you want to be cremated? Do you have military....
Someone you love has died and you are now faced with the difficult, but important, need to mourn. According to Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D., director of the Center for Loss and Life Transition, “Mourning is the open expression of your thoughts and feelings regarding the death and the person who has died. It is an essential part of healing.” The grief journey is often frightening, painful, overwhelming and sometimes lonely.
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By taking the time now to put your affairs in order for your funeral, loved ones can be spared emotional and financial burdens in the future. At the time of completing a funeral plan, individuals are given an option whether they wish to pre-
Because we are living longer and our families are often scattered around the country, advance planning is the responsible gift that provides helpful guidance, emotional support and required information to those who will survive us.
A funeral or memorial service is an opportunity for family, friends and associates to gather, reflect upon and honor the meaning and impact of the life of a deceased loved one. It is a complex blend of religious, psychological, emotional, social and economic dimensions that are interrelated but individual for each service. A funeral or life celebration is a ceremonial event that must be planned to coordinate activities and people in a flowing sequence that will help provide a positive lasting memory for everyone in attendance.
It is never too early to pre-
If an accident happened to cause your death today, would your loved ones know how to arrange your funeral or life celebration?
Who will notify your family and friends? Have you discussed the type of visitation, funeral or memorial service you’d like to have with anyone? Do you know what casket or urn you would like? Do others know your favorite song? Is there a favorite outfit you’d want to wear? Do you want a traditional burial or do you want to be cremated? Do you have military benefits that may pay for part of the funeral?
And the questions go on and on.
When a death occurs, survivors are naturally stunned, often emotionally devastated, and find it difficult to make decisions when they are simply trying to cope with their loss. Making the choice to pre-
According to the National Funeral Directors Association, the average person finds themselves planning a funeral only once or twice in their entire lifetime. As such, it is perfectly normal to feel a sense of apprehension, uncertainty or even outright fear of this unfamiliar process.
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If a person does not have an advance funeral plan, planning is complicated by the feelings of great sadness one has when someone has died. With an advance plan, all necessary and difficult decisions can be made so families can devote their time and energy to honoring the memory of their loved one. They can concentrate on sharing sentiments and stories with each other, friends and associates during the visitation and celebration of life memorial service.
If you do not plan for the inevitable end of life, then one day a great deal of responsibility will be placed on the shoulders of a spouse or children for final arrangements and the settlement of your estate.
People buy life insurance to provide economic means for survivors. But money from life insurance doesn’t console survivors dealing with their emotional pain from grieving.
Lawyers draw up wills to ensure possessions in estates will be distributed according to your wishes. But an estate is not probated until after a funeral.
Jeanne Sledd is a senior advanced planning specialist and licensed funeral director. She has worked for Milward Funeral Directors for nearly 20 years. Milward Funeral Directors has three locations in Lexington. Jeanne can be reached at 859-
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