ADVICE FOR YOUR BUCKET LIST

Do you know what a bucket list is? Most people think it is a list of things you want to do before you die. A typical guess is people want to visit a particular place before dying. Based on an unscientific poll about bucket lists, that is not a bad guess. Travel appears to be a frequent bucket list ambition.  Anne is an American who is proud her ancestors lived for centuries on the group of small islands in the English Channel between the southern coast of England and mainland Europe.

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effective relationship. A sincere and caring friendship is worth more than the expansive travels and costly challenges of some of those places and things that make some bucket lists. A true friendship is one of the most cherished experiences in life. That ought to be on just about everyone’s bucket list.


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By definition, a bucket list is a list of experiences or accomplishments a person hopes to have or complete during his or her lifetime. It takes time to examine your life and decide which experiences really count. You can spend an enormous amount of time reading bucket list books and visiting Web sites looking for inspiration, realizing you would need a substantial amount of time and money to travel the world or buy expensive things. In some cases, a traditional bucket list item may require a large amount of talent to achieve.


In the movie “The Bucket List,” billionaire Edward Cole (Jack Nicholson) and car mechanic Carter Chambers (Morgan Freeman) are complete strangers until they share a hospital room. They both have a need to come to terms with who they are and what they have done with their lives. They find some common ground when they begin to work on a list of things they want to see and do before they die – before they kick the bucket. The men leave the hospital against medical advice and set out on the adventure of a lifetime. The friendship that develops between them is the true treasure.


Research suggests one of our most important needs is for friendship and love in our lives. Because there is no single definition of friendship, the friendships we personally experience can mean many different things, depending on the people involved. Friendship for some may be a boyfriend or girlfriend, while for others a common interest brings

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them together. For someone else, a trauma or tragedy forms their friendships. It may take a long time for some to consider someone else a friend, while others find an almost instant connection upon meeting. Some people need time and shared experiences to get to know someone else before that person becomes their friend.


What are the ingredients of a good friendship? Both parties need to experience lasting trust, which, according to psychologist Erik Erikson, is the foundation of any relationship. When trust exists, each person feels the autonomy or freedom to be themselves in the relationship. The essentials of a good lifelong relationship include other components that must exist and be experienced in sequential order (Friedman 2000). These must be followed by what Erikson refers to as the initiative to work for the benefit of the relationship. When this condition is met, industry must occur, which is the balance of what each person brings in their personhood to the relationship.


It is only after these elements of trust, autonomy, initiative and industry exist in the relationship that it has what Erikson calls identity. It looks like and feels like an

DR. THOMAS W. MILLER, PH.D, ABPP

Thomas W. Miller, Ph.D., ABPP, is a Professor Emeritus and Senior Research Scientist, Center for Health, Intervention and Prevention, University of Connecticut and Professor Department of Psychiatry, College of Medicine and Department of Gerontology, College of Public Health, University of Kentucky.

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