Anyone who has experienced a death of a loved one may find the holidays difficult. The season can become filled with feelings of sadness, loss and emptiness. “Society encourages you to join in the holiday spirit, but all around you the sounds, sights and smells trigger memories of the one you love who has died,” said Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D, Director of the Center for Loss and Life Transition “During the holidays it is important to remember to be tolerant and compassionate with yourself.”
It’s a new year! For many people that means life starts over. It’s a time to try to live better, be more organized, and complete tasks that perhaps were overlooked during the previous year. As you are making your resolutions and lists of all the things you want to do to make your life better in 2018, have you considered discussing having the Talk of a Lifetime with your loved ones? What is the Talk of a Lifetime you might be asking.
Someone you love has died and you are now faced with the difficult, but important, need to mourn. According to Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D, Director of the Center for Loss and Life Transition “Mourning is the open expression of your thoughts and feelings regarding the death and the person who has died. It is an essential part of healing.” The grief journey is often frightening, painful, overwhelming, and sometimes lonely. With hope the following tips from Dr. Wolfelt will help you as you move toward….
With the baby boom population being 75 million strong, it’s no surprise that today’s funeral services have become “Life Celebrations” instead of a room full of friends and family wearing black attire and sad faces. This is certainly not to downplay the fact that when a loved one dies, we aren’t sad or that it is difficult to celebrate a traumatic and unexpected loss. It is simply to state that today the emphasis on funerals for many families, especially baby boomers, has been to plan the service around the....
Regardless of your age, there is a good chance that you have attended at least one or two funerals. For those people reading this article, there is a greater chance that you’ve possibly attended many more funerals than just two. Unfortunately, over the past year, I personally have attended more funerals than normal. With each funeral I attend, my belief that funerals are an important ritual to help the living acknowledge loss and begin the grief process grows even stronger. Funerals do matter.
Whether you’re a boomer or the child of a boomer, you may have started talking about the next 10, 20 or even 30 years and planning for the retirement years. If you have already had the retirement conversation and started planning, congratulations – you are doing yourself and your family a favor by considering and possibly making decisions about the many choices you have available to you.
Have you ever considered how much your family has experienced during your lifetime together? From the birth of your children to the first and last days of school to weddings and all the vacations, ballgames and performances in between, you probably have many stories to share with friends and families. Along the way, I’m pretty certain you have probably taken hundreds if not thousands of photos and videos of your family and friends to help document your journey.
If an accident happened to cause your death today, would your loved ones know how to arrange your funeral or life celebration? Who will notify your family and friends? Have you discussed the type of visitation, funeral or memorial service you’d like to have with anyone? Do you know what casket or urn you would like? Do others know your favorite song? Is there a favorite outfit you’d want to wear? Do you want a traditional burial or do you want to be cremated? Do you have military....
Someone you love has died and you are now faced with the difficult, but important, need to mourn. According to Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D., director of the Center for Loss and Life Transition, “Mourning is the open expression of your thoughts and feelings regarding the death and the person who has died. It is an essential part of healing.” The grief journey is often frightening, painful, overwhelming and sometimes lonely.
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The BeRemembered software is accessible on Milward Funeral Directors’ Web page at www.milwardfuneral.com. Your personal BeRemembered page can only be viewed by the individual who sets up the page and guardians who are given permission to access the site.
Organizations in the community that are interested in helping their members get started on documenting their memories are welcome to reach out to me to book a demonstration of the software.
Have you ever considered how much your family has experienced during your lifetime together? From the birth of your children to the first and last days of school to weddings and all the vacations, ballgames and performances in between, you probably have many stories to share with friends and families.
Along the way, I’m pretty certain you have probably taken hundreds if not thousands of photos and videos of your family and friends to help document your journey. While some people dedicate more time to journaling than others, it is never too late to sit down and document your life in words.
Through a program sponsored by funeral homes across the nation, including Milward Funeral Directors in Lexington, individuals can document the important milestones of life on free software called BeRemembered. BeRemembered allows people to upload photos and videos, complete a bio, add experiences and favorite things, write words of wisdom and add personal letters to your loved ones. The program even includes a place to add a bucket list of things you’d like to do before you die. Finally, it allows individuals to outline how he or she visualizes his or her Life Celebration, funeral or memorial service.
Unlike a scrapbook that can be held, BeRemembered is a digital
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solution for recording memories and life plans. In today’s world, families often live several states apart and do not have the opportunity to hold a scrapbook except when visiting over holidays or during family reunions.
Individuals who record their life history on BeRemembered can give permission to people to visit a private site to view photos and videos and read about their life. The software also asks you to appoint a guardian to your site. If or when something happens to you, your guardian will have access to unlock your BeRemembered pages to share with people through various social media outlets. You may want your guardian to be your spouse, son or daughter, another close relative, special friend or even a funeral director.
Choosing to use BeRemembered is a lovely gift to give your family who want to cherish and share family memories for generations. Completing your bio and sharing your experiences on BeRemembered is simple and could even open up an opportunity to sit down with your tech-
Angie Walters has been a funeral director for five years. She recently joined Milward Funeral Directors, the 37th oldest continuously operated family business in the United States. Milward has three locations in Lexington, including its Celebration of Life Center at 1509 Trent Boulevard. Angie can be reached at Milward Funeral Directors-
159 North Broadway | 859.252.3411
391 Southland Drive | 859.276.1415
1509 Trent Boulevard | 859.272.3414